Imposter Syndrome
As a job seeker with a troubled past, have you ever felt like you're wearing a mask, pretending to be someone you're not? Do you often doubt your abilities, worth, or right to succeed despite evidence to the contrary? If so, you're not alone. Imposter syndrome, a psychological phenomenon that affects countless individuals, can be incredibly potent for those with challenging backgrounds.
Imposter syndrome is characterized by an overwhelming sense of self-doubt and a fear of being exposed as a "fraud" despite tangible accomplishments and skills. It's a nagging voice in the back of your mind that whispers, "You don't belong here," "You're not good enough," or "It's only a matter of time before they find out you're a phony."
Imposter syndrome can be particularly tricky for job seekers with troubled pasts. You may worry that your background disqualifies you from specific opportunities or that others will judge you harshly if they know about your past struggles. You might dismiss your strengths and capabilities, chalking your successes to luck or external factors rather than your efforts.
Left unchecked, imposter syndrome can sabotage your job search and career aspirations. It can lead you to self-select out of promising opportunities, avoid putting yourself out there, or undermine your performance due to a fear of failure. It can trap you in a cycle of self-doubt and stagnation, preventing you from realizing your full potential.
However, it's crucial to recognize that imposter syndrome is a distortion, a false narrative your mind creates to protect you from the discomfort of growth and change. Your past experiences and challenges have likely equipped you with unique strengths, insights, and resilience that can set you apart in the Marketplace.
One of the keys to overcoming imposter syndrome is to start reframing your internal dialogue. When you catch yourself engaging in negative self-talk or discounting your abilities, pause and ask yourself:
Is this thought accurate? Is it true?
What evidence do I have to support or refute it?
How might I view this situation when talking to a friend or loved one?
By questioning your self-doubts and practicing self-compassion, you can start to chip away at the power of imposter syndrome. You recognize that your worth is inherent, not contingent on external validation or perfection. You begin to see your background as a source of strength and unique perspective rather than a liability.
Another effective strategy for combating imposter syndrome is to focus on your value to potential employers rather than fixating on your perceived shortcomings. When applying for jobs or preparing for interviews, reflect on the specific skills, experiences, and qualities that make you an asset to the role and the organization.
Consider creating a "brag sheet"— a list of your accomplishments, strengths, and positive feedback you've received from others. Review this list regularly to reinforce your sense of competence and worth. Practice speaking confidently about your abilities and the results you've achieved, even if it initially feels uncomfortable.
Imposter syndrome originates in your mind as a thought and is related to fear—not real fear, as in,
“OMG, there’s an enormous tiger in the next room, and he looks hungry!!!”
Instead, it’s imagined fear about something that could happen (later) but isn’t happening (now). No one else can see, feel, or touch this imagined state, but they can see the byproducts of it, such as how you act, the body language you display, and the words you use. Imposter syndrome exists only in your mind. Don’t give it any power by manifesting these behaviors.
So, how do you deal with imposter syndrome as a reentering person? You manage it.
Trust the reentry process and your employment plan.
Stay focused on doing your job to the best of your abilities.
Act the part and fit in, but avoid comparing yourself to others at work.
Stay away from work drama and complicating interpersonal distractions.
Be punctual, dependable, and consistent—maintain a strong work ethic.
Ultimately, overcoming imposter syndrome is an ongoing practice, not a one-time fix. It’s a process, just like reentry in general. Keep in mind that you secured this job because you had a Job Search Objective, and you achieved it. You positioned yourself and were selected just like the other employees. You are there to do a job, which is the only reason you know the other employees. You, your plan, and doing the job come first. Be friendly, personable, helpful but not needy. Carry your own water, do the work, and find success. Doing this consistently is the best medicine for an imposter syndrome ailment.
By learning to recognize and reframe imposter syndrome, you liberate yourself to pursue your career goals with greater confidence, authenticity, and tenacity. You begin to see yourself not as an imposter but a capable, valuable contributor with a unique story and a bright future.
Remember that imposter syndrome is a shared experience among highly successful individuals. Many people you admire—for real—grapple with their self-doubts and fears of inadequacy. The difference is that they've learned to recognize these thoughts as false narratives and to keep acting despite them.
Onward!